I'm not a keen follower of the news. Ever since we unplugged our cable, I filter out what I watch so I mostly get to know what's happening later than most people. Today I woke up to the sad news that as part of the global campaign against the spread of HIV/AIDS among the youth, our president has launched a campaign dubbed 'Condoms for Kids.' I was so incensed about this that I first had to call my dear hubby to rant about it before asking him to join me in prayer. I've prayed about it and strongly feel that after a 2 year hiatus, this is something I need to blog about.
I am a wife and mother, but even before these titles, I am a daughter of the most high God. I am a sinner saved by grace and for that I am deeply grateful, for though I know I'm a W.I.P (Work In Progress), I'm not where I used to be. Over the years, God has been teaching me why abstinence is important; a lesson I wish I learned before I lost my virginity to a man I intended to get married to. But 3 years down the line, I finally had the guts to see the relationship for what it was: a toxic and emotionally abusive sham. I was riddled with guilt and shame, and though my peers were sexually active, I learnt the life changing truth that sin is sin whether you believe in God or not. God's truth after all, is objective and not subjective.
As a mum, I am my children's first teacher (Prov 1:8 and 6:20) and it's my duty to demystify sex for my children according to God's word. I do not want them to buy into the lie that safe sex is all there is to sex, because unwanted pregnancies and STI's are not good enough reasons for abstinence. I say that because I know many people who got children at the 'right' time and dodged the various STI bullets, but are plagued with spiritual and emotional wounds resulting from sexual sin. This is because unlike other sins which are external to you, sexual sin is internalized (1 Cor 6:18).
When I finally do talk to my children about sex, these are the biblical truths I want them to learn:
- God created the sexual act as a way to unify a man and wife body,soul and spirit. Can you imagine the effects of having multiple unions or soul ties? Sex can especially be an empty act when there's no marital commitment involved.
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh (Gen 2:24)
- The greatest way you can communicate love to your future spouse is by waiting for him / her in your marriage bed
- Sex is a divine gift that's not only meant for procreation purposes, but as a way for a husband and wife to enjoy each other. In the old testament, a newly married man was even excused from war in order to first go home and enjoy his wife! (Deut 20:7)
- Sex shouldn't be used as a manipulative tool by either spouse, and abstinence should only be by mutual agreement.
There are many more truths about sex covered in the Bible.I shall continue with part 2 of this post next week. Until then, God bless you.
I am a wife and mother, but even before these titles, I am a daughter of the most high God. I am a sinner saved by grace and for that I am deeply grateful, for though I know I'm a W.I.P (Work In Progress), I'm not where I used to be. Over the years, God has been teaching me why abstinence is important; a lesson I wish I learned before I lost my virginity to a man I intended to get married to. But 3 years down the line, I finally had the guts to see the relationship for what it was: a toxic and emotionally abusive sham. I was riddled with guilt and shame, and though my peers were sexually active, I learnt the life changing truth that sin is sin whether you believe in God or not. God's truth after all, is objective and not subjective.
As a mum, I am my children's first teacher (Prov 1:8 and 6:20) and it's my duty to demystify sex for my children according to God's word. I do not want them to buy into the lie that safe sex is all there is to sex, because unwanted pregnancies and STI's are not good enough reasons for abstinence. I say that because I know many people who got children at the 'right' time and dodged the various STI bullets, but are plagued with spiritual and emotional wounds resulting from sexual sin. This is because unlike other sins which are external to you, sexual sin is internalized (1 Cor 6:18).
When I finally do talk to my children about sex, these are the biblical truths I want them to learn:
- God created the sexual act as a way to unify a man and wife body,soul and spirit. Can you imagine the effects of having multiple unions or soul ties? Sex can especially be an empty act when there's no marital commitment involved.
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh (Gen 2:24)
- The greatest way you can communicate love to your future spouse is by waiting for him / her in your marriage bed
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.(1 Cor 13:4-8)
- Abstinence communicates a deep love for God as you're obeying His commands
And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands. As you have heard from the beginning, his command is that you walk in love. (2 John 1:6)
- Sex is a divine gift that's not only meant for procreation purposes, but as a way for a husband and wife to enjoy each other. In the old testament, a newly married man was even excused from war in order to first go home and enjoy his wife! (Deut 20:7)
- Sex shouldn't be used as a manipulative tool by either spouse, and abstinence should only be by mutual agreement.
Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Cor 7:5)
There are many more truths about sex covered in the Bible.I shall continue with part 2 of this post next week. Until then, God bless you.
